Lent Day 22, Wednesday, Mar 10, 2021

“Seek Forgiveness and Reconcile”

Undoubtedly, this is the most difficult of all the Challenges this Lenten Season. In fact, it is so difficult that the author places it in the middle of Lent to give us some time to work on it, recognizing that few of us could accomplish it without substantial notice. The Challenge is in two parts:

First, ask for someone’s forgiveness. Difficult, indeed, so let’s take it in pieces. Forgiveness begins with the admission of fault against whom we have caused offense. Then, we address them and ask them to forgive us, with all and complete sincerity. Sometimes, the offense might have been with a family member with whom we’ve lost contact. Other times, the hurt involved someone who would be considered an enemy. Who is it that has come to mind? Who needs the apology? The list might be long, so read the next part before you choose.

The second part of the Challenge is to reconcile with the person. Arghhh! Forgiveness is one thing, but seeking reconciliation as if we want a relationship with them in the future? That’s a whole other set of problems, indicating that I can’t just seek forgiveness and walk away. Rather, I must press further forward by scheduling a lunch date, another conversation, or at minimum, an expectation of future contact.

Can we do it? Can we be the much “bigger person” and admit a wrong, then offer so much grace that the other person will be left with no other choice but to both forgive and receive our offer? Let’s get after it! If we can accomplish this one, even if the other person refuses our offer and intent, it will be more than worth the effort.

“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32, ESV).